My husband and I have been married for a little over 10 years now. He works away on business and is going 5 out of 7 days of the week, while I stay at home and raise our 5 year old daughter. I'll keep a long story short and tell you that he and I rarely connect anymore in any intimate way, or emotionally. However I will admit he's a great dad, and a great provider for our family. Recently I met a man who makes me feel appreciated, and who makes me laugh. I mentioned to my husband that I had met this new friend, and (to be honest I'm not sure why) I also mentioned to him that he makes me feel good about myself in ways my husband doesn't. My new friend and I went to dinner, and my husband flipped out on me. He said it's inappropriate for a man to take another man's wife to dinner when it's just the two of them alone, but I think he flipped out because he's jealous that someone makes me feel good when he doesn't. I'll be honest, I kind of liked the attention, probably from both of them. What do you think? Is it wrong?
Okay. First of all, take some responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and grow up. NO ONE can MAKE YOU FEEL anything at all. It sounds to me like your husband is a good father and provider, yet doesn't cater to your every need for attention and therefore you're flirting with being unfaithful in your marriage, and certainly already being disloyal, all for what? Stop putting this off on your husband. It is YOUR SOLE responsibly to make yourself feel good about yourself. Not his. And if you feel like he's not being as intimate as you'd like, talk to him about it. DO things that encourage more intimacy...don't just complain, and bitch incessantly (as I assume you do). Back to your question. Is it wrong to go out to dinner wth a man while you're married? NO, not at all. Unless you're going to dinner with a man who makes you feel things your husband doesn't and you're doing it for attention, and self-worth issues, and to get a rise from your husband. Then yes, IT totally is wrong...and really shitty of you to even consider it.