Having sex with my husband has been chalked up in my mind to "just another wifely duty I have to fulfill, like doing laundry". And it's actually less satisfying than doing laundry because at least I get something out of having clean clothes. He crawls on top of me, cums quick and then he falls fast asleep snoring. I've tried talking to him about it and he flippantly suggests I buy a vibrator and handle it myself. I told him I had been faking it and he actually responded by saying "that's not my problem". So what do I do? Cheat? Buy a vibrator? Tell him to fuck off? Leave him? What would you do?
ANSWER: What would I do? I wouldn't be in a relationship with someone who is so callously uncaring about my needs. Sex is a big part of a relationship, and to have a partner who doesn't give a shit about your needs is pathetic.
So, what would I do? I'd stop having sex with him until he started listening to me. You teach people how to treat you. Why are you letting him crawl on top of you and use your hole for his own pleasure, while you're getting nothing out it?
It is YOUR FAULT you're not having orgasms, that's actually a correct statement. You know why most men are bad in bed? Because most women fake it. Can you imagine how much better he would be by now had you ever just been honest from day one?
1. Stop having sex. And tell him that you will be happy to have sex (excited actually) when he's ready to meet you half way here and listen to what you want and need. You're not a fucking portal. And your vagina isn't a fucking sex toy that can be discarded after use. Fuck that.
2. Make sure you know what you want? Oral sex? Longer sex? Foreplay? Be honest and be direct about. "I would like for you to go down on me every single time you want to stick your penis into my vagina...so at least there's a little excitement and pleasure for me".
I mean, seriously ;) I'd say that.
3. Buy a vibrator anyway...because, I mean EVERY WOMAN ON THIS PLANET SHOULD OWN ONE. And also, it helps enhance intercourse anyway (it also helps enhance your life, period). Use it on him too. Let him see how much better sex can be if you both are open to exploring new ideas...together!
And in the end, he will love you all the more for not allowing him to continue to be a super douche canoe!!!
WHAT YOU PUT UP WITH, YOU"LL END UP WITH!!!