I was totally depressed and lost in this world. I couldn't seem to catch a break. I was living in fear, constantly worried and only felt extreme doubt. I lost my career. My marriage was ending. I was devastated and heartbroken over the loss of my brother that just died. I was disconnected from the kids. I was only going through the physical motions of life...I was on a downward spiral and hope was fading into darkness.
And then...one day, I woke up and decided to change.
One and a half years ago I was 40 pounds overweight, depressed, lost and completely lonely and hopeless. I didn't even have Facebook friends, much less "real life friends". I was running out of money and time; and depression was rolling in like a ominous storm hovering over my life.
NOW, I have a new company, a new life and a whole new following that all came about because I made a pact with myself to follow these 8 simple rules here.
This is how I went from "poverty" to endless "possibilities"...from 33 social media friends to over 60,000 followers, in a single year. How I went from no one even knowing I had a written a blog to now over 2 million faithful and loyal readers? How I went from "everything is falling apart" to "everything is falling into place". How I went from lost to found, and hopeless to hopeful. How I went from #mylifesucks to #blessedbeyondmeasure
THIS IS HOW. I followed these 8 simple steps...and didn't skip a beat! If you are serious about changing your life. If you are serious about wanting something MORE for yourself. If you are serious about needing to get out of this RUT that you are in...you will do these things.
Otherwise, you'll wake up ten years from in the life you're living today...and nothing will change for you!
HOW I CHANGED MY LIFE IN 8 SIMPLE STEPS
1. The first thing I did was take a little inventory over who was in my life and immediately got rid of 99% of them.
This is the most important step because it sets the tone for true "movement" and "change" and "growth". If you're not serious, you'll skip this step, if you ARE serious, you'll be more than happy to make room for some more positive people around you. You have limited space in your life for others...the five closest people to you are the ones you'll be most influenced by. It's honestly better to have no one, then anyone that's negative...and let me tell you that the people in your life that are ALLOWING you to live how you're living may not be "saying" negative things, but the very fact that they're "allowing" you to continue like this makes them a negative influence, whether you realize it or not. GET rid of them!
When you finally make the decision to CHANGE you only want people around you that can lift you up, pick you up and hold you up. At this stage...if they're not helping, they're hurting. There is NO exception to this rule and it VERY MUCH includes family!
2. Next, I took ownership over the fact that my life is only going to be exactly what I make of it...no one is going to suddenly appear and fix it all for me.
People spend their crappy lives waiting for some miracle to walk in their front door and just change everything with a magic wand. It's not going to happen. YOU are the only person in control of your life and control of the direction its headed. If you're waiting for someone to change you, you'll die being the person you are now and in the life you're living today. NO ONE will change your life but you!
3. Next, I reconnected with God and started a spiritual journey where I placed most of my focus and energy.
Most of you know how I feel about this...let go of all of that religious crap you've been taught and connect with GOD on a deeper, spiritual, MORE PERSONAL level! You want to know how to connect with God on a spiritual level? Question everything you've been taught through religion. Open up your mind and heart and just PAY attention to all of the lessons around you! You don't need a priest, a rabbi, a preacher, or some self-proclaimed "holy man" to be your voice for you or your bridge to God.
I read the Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, The Four Agreements and watched the movie The Secret, to kick start my spiritual journey! I suggest you do these three things as well!
4. Next...no matter how slow or fast I went...I swore that I would only move in a forward motion, never looking back. Past is gone, learn the lessons and move forward.
As long as your movement is forward, it's all good. Some days are going to mean more than others...but every day will count if you're only moving in a forward motion. Anytime you start to recognize past behavior, stop it immediately and be the person you're wanting to be. Eventually the surface of you will become the depth of you and you won't even recognize yourself, or your life.
You'll start to see change most through retrospective vision...meaning you'll start to look back and realize you are NOWHERE near where you used to be in life. It's a very cool feeling and it turbo charges your forward movement.
5. Next, got rid of all of the possibility poverty titles I had given myself "I'm not good enough, I don't have enough, I can't, I'm not talented enough, I don't know enough"....
The agreements we make with ourselves are what shapes our lives.
What we tell ourselves is the most important part of our lives. You are exactly what you believe you are going to be. Whatever agreements you make with yourself; those agreements are truth! If you tell yourself that you're not enough, you WON'T be enough. If you tell yourself that you're a failure, you will be a failure! If you tell yourself that people only use you, people will only use you. If you tell yourself that everyone is out to get you and hurt you and only bad things happen to you, that'll all be true too!
6. And I only spoke positive things over myself and my life to the point of sounding crazy...
Start telling yourself different things....this is your story...NEVER FORGET that it is YOURS to write!
The agreements we make with ourselves ARE all true. The cool thing is, they're ours to make! So change what it is that you're speaking over your own life!
I seriously started bragging about how everything I did turned to gold and you know what happened? Before long, everything I did started turning to gold. I started telling people that it seemed like I had "favor" with God...and you know what happened; people (strangers) would tell that back to me....someone actually wrote on my FB page "I swear you have favor with God"...seriously! I started telling myself that I was talented beyond measure and creative and without even asking for it, things would fall into my lap...and guess what started happening...
This is your story to write...tell yourself whatever you want. BECAUSE those agreements that you choose to make with yourself are the ones that are all true!
7. Next, I made a list of all of the things in my life that I am extremely grateful for and started saying "thank you" for all of them, out loud...I said thank you for anything and everything I could. I would drive through green lights and say "thank you" out loud. THANK YOU became part of my every day vernacular.
I say it daily, "those who say thank you, have the most to say thank you for". There is nothing that brings about more abundance in life than gratitude!
Gratitude is the vehicle that brings about blessings. Say thank you, every single day, all day long for anything and everything you could possibly say thank you for and watch your life change instantly around you!
THIS is the law of attraction...when you are saying thank you, the universe is opening up and wanting to offer you more things to say thank you for! TRUST ME on this one. I live in a constant state of gratitude!
8. And then...I made a dream board. I wrote down short term and long term goals and would put on my headphones, every single day, (still do this) listen to music that I can feel in my soul...and imagine myself living in the life I want to be living.
And every single day that I do this, I say thank you...not because I have it but because I know it is Gods great pleasure to give it to me. All in good time....
The law of attraction doesn't need you to understand it or believe in it in order for it to work. Whether you realize it or not YOUR THOUGHTS are BECOMING YOUR THINGS. Thoughts lead to feelings which is energy which pulls everything back in around you and life is an echo!
What you're thinking about...is what you're bringing about. Make a dream board and stay focused!
Life is your choice. This is your moment.
You weren't created to be depressed and sad. You didn't survive all that you have survived in life just so you could be alone and hurting and hopeless. There is a purpose to your life that only you can find. It will start by stepping out of your comfort zone and following your passions in life.
I don't remember the exact moment my life turned around because I was so focused on spiritual growth that I can't recall...it's funny how day by day nothing seems to change but you look back and everything is different. All I know now is that I seriously don't even recognize the woman I used to be...and thank GOD (literally) for that!
It's hard to think and feel independent of what's happening around us but figuring out how to do that is the first step in changing your life. It's easier said than done but it IS possible!
THIS is what I know...when it rains it pours because the second it started to rain you immediately started worrying it would pour...and therefore, it did.
The second something goes right, you think "omg I'm going to have a great day" and therefore you do.
The minute tragedy happens you get stuck in thought and feeling and more and more tragedy comes about. It IS the law of attraction you need not understand anything more than the simple fact that it exists and is powerful.
Life is your choice and this is your moment. What are you attracting?
THAT is the first question I asked myself on the first day I changed my life.
By Kristy Sinsara
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