NO GAY PEOPLE, NO FAT PEOPLE, NO TATTOOS, NO DIVORCED MOMS AND DADS and NOOO INTERRACIAL COUPLES.... what's next Arizona? Something to consider, by Kristy Sinsara
Unless you live under a rock or fail to read or watch the news you've probably heard by now that the Arizona legislatures passed a law last Thursday allowing business owners to discriminate against gay and lesbians, as long as the discrimination is based on their religious ideologies.
To be honest with you, when I first heard about this story I didn't really care. I have always just had this idea that we're all different and we all see life through our own filtered experiences and "to each his own". My family personally purposefully lives in a state where people are more collectively open-minded, compassionate and understanding. That's what we choose for our family. It's a choice for everyone.
And let's be honest, independent "states rights" has been an issue since our civil war. If you don't like your state than move.
Admittedly, the only squeamish moment I had was a selfish personal realization that Tucson is where one of our favorite family resorts is located, and we take our kids there once a year for a mini vacation. Oh well, trip cancelled, plenty of other places to visit outside of Arizona.
But the more I started reading about it and thinking about it the more I started realizing how much bigger of a problem this is than what it seems.
We can fight on the issue of being gay all day, but that's truly secondary to the real issue of what's happening here.
The issue is that if we're going to allow the separation of Church and State to be thrown out of the window for certain "intolerances" then does it stand to reason that the discrimination that's being allowed will go beyond the gay and lesbian community? Intolerance is intolerance. I am truly afraid of religious zealots that are given permission to use the Bible as a platform for hate.
As a Christian, I would be offended by this message of intolerance and lack of true understanding of God's word. But as a kind and compassionate human being I'm far more concerned with the repercussions this may have in the long run on other groups out there.
Let's be honest here for arguments sake. There are far more verses in the Bible warning against gluttony! In fact GLUTTONY is one of the seven deadly sins. Is it okay then to have a sign in the window that says "no fat people allowed"? What's next?
There are far more verses in the bible against divorce than homosexuality. Are we okay to assume that the next line of discrimination will be against single moms and dads too? Are we considering what's next? Or how about the fact that the Bible is also against tattoos? Will there soon be signs that say "have a tat, don't bother coming inside". What's next? Or more closely related the bible speaks vehemently against interracial marriage. So if a black man and a white woman and their beautiful mixed children walk into the establishment the owner can say "get the hell out of here, MY GOD doesn't like you"? Is this okay? And will ALL of these things be supported by the Arizona government? Where will this discrimination end? WHAT IS NEXT???? THIS is what we should be asking ourselves!
Our level of intolerance is reaching a level of intolerance in itself.
I've said it before and I'll continue to say it. I find the fight for gay rights amusing in that it is resembling the exact same arguments for and against civil rights in America for Black Americans. The red states are fighting hard against recognizing their most basic civil rights and when forced to do so by the Federal Government they are coming up with something that parallels a "separate but equal" clause.
Listen to me. This is only a matter of history. If you're on the wrong side of history than congratulations, you'll get to tell your grandkids someday you fought hard against equality and love.
In the meantime, to the owner of the pizzeria that wants to spread more distention and hate in an already divided world...you're not even being unique with your judgment. You're not the first to use your religion to hide behind your racism, bigotry and fears and unfortunately you won't be the last.
But what we can all be thankful for collectively is that you're having to use these extreme measures to try and get attention because people like you are a dying breed. Scream and yell and kick all the way down...your hate will not win this war.
It's okay that your religion disagrees with the fact that I'm married to a woman. My religion disagrees with the fact that you're so judgmental, to each his own. Your religion justifies your judgment, mine calls it "wrong". You're raising your kids to "be aware" of families like mine? Trust me, we're warning our children about people like you too, every single day.
When your kids grow up, our kids will teach them about what true love, acceptance and compassion looks like because that's what we're actually TEACHING our kids.
In the meantime, you just keep preaching, thankfully the world is growing tired of your small minded views!
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STOP WASTING YOUR TIME ON THE WRONG PERSON ...how long can you wait for never? A blog for all daters...by Kristy Sinsara
You've probably known all along that "this" isn't "the person" for you...but your desire to not be alone overrides your desire to be realistic, more often than not, and here you are in the exact same boat again.
You know, in your heart, that this is not going to work out in the long run but it's okay for now, isn't it???
The truth is that I spent years making excuses for people, including myself, when I knew I was getting into relationships with people I shouldn't. I had an uncanny ability to ignore major red flags and dismiss the 98% of things that weren't compatible. 2% of HOPE weighs more than 98% of FEAR. That's what I learned when I was single.
Often in life our "wants" masquerade as "needs" and we feel like we can't live without certain things..and THAT feeling causes us to feel "stuck"....and then we play the "at least" game. "At least I have someone to come home to", "at least I'm not lonely", "at least they do this or that", blah blah blah.
The truth is that every single day that you're with the wrong person is just another day you're NOT with the RIGHT PERSON!
I look back and realize how many wasted years I spent on trying to make it work with the wrong people and all along I could have just been focused on ME and working on ME! It sucks that when I finally met "my person" I wasn't ready for it completely because I had wasted so much valuable time on others.
Imagine your "person" you want to meet in your head. Does your life look like you want it to look if you were to meet them today? DO YOU look like you want to look? Are you the person you want to be?
Stop making excuses and stop wasting time. This is YOUR TIME you should be completely and solely focused on you and only you!
So stop making lists of "why's" and "why not's". Stop making a list of reasons to leave or stay. If you're making a list at all the truth is that you already know the answer! BUT again, 2% of hope weighs more than 98% of fear...at least they're "SOME"ONE, even if not "THE ONE".
You need permission? You need a sign from God? Well here...there are NO COINCIDENCES IN THIS LIFE...the fact that you're reading this is odd enough isn't it? I mean I'm a random blogger that lives in the Pacific Northwest...and you're you...living wherever you live and we will probably never meet but here you are reading these words I'm writing (for a reason)!
I give you permission, I'm telling you to walk away and go work on you! Make this a pivotal moment in your life where you read some random blog and it just "hit you" and you changed your life forever!
Don't waste anymore time on the wrong person...the right person is out there...waiting! How on earth would they even recognize you if you're stuck behind someone else? Go get'um tiger ;)
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