SUPER SOON TO BE STEP DAD
Dear Kristy, my girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years now. She has 2 kids that I am growing to love and adore. So much so that when I'm referring to them to other people I hate calling them "my girlfriend's kids". It really does a disservice to the relationship that I'm building with them. However, I'm aware that they're not yet "our" kids or "my kids" so what can I call them that makes that really shows how special they are to me?
Dear SUPER "SOON TO BE" STEPDAD
That's a great question. First of all, kudos to you for being such a cool dude! I LOVE THAT you're so open to building a relationship with the kids and that your heart is with them already.
I would suggest that you ask the kids what they want you to call them? Are they old enough? What if you presented this question to them, with your girlfriend, as a family discussion and see what they have to say about it?
If they're not yet old enough to offer you some honest advice on the issue, my suggestion would be that you call them "the kids", or something sweet and adorable like "the little ones", and not differentiate between WHOSE kids they are?
Continue to be you...and let the relationship fall into place as it naturally should and will in all of your lives....the truth is that eventually you'll realize that "titles" don't matter!