Dear Kristy, My heart is broken and confused right now and I'm hoping you can offer me a little insight. My son, over the holidays, came home and told my husband and I that he is gay. To be honest with you, as his mom, I always wondered, since he was a little boy, I had a strange feeling this was coming some day. So I was a little more accepting of it, as it wasn't that big of a shock to me. My husband, however, being the strong Christian man that he is, told my son that he is never allowed in our home with any of his "male friends" and that he does not and will never accept him, or his lifestyle. My son left the table and we haven't heard from him since. He won't return my calls or texts or messages and has since deleted me on Facebook too. I know he's hurting but my husband is hurting too and now I'm feeling caught in the middle of the two of them. How can I reconcile this and make them talk this out?
Dear Mrs. Christian.
First of all, I would stop referring to your husband as a "strong Christian man". His behavior is more like a weak little child who is throwing a temper tantrum, and hurting people in his destructive path, simply because he can't get his way.
The reality that your son finally found the strength to be honest with you and your husband's reaction was that of "rejection" and "dissension" is sad and wildly UN-CHRIST LIKE, not to mention (in my opinion) pathetic and borderline abusive!
You need to make sure that your son knows that YOU LOVE HIM and that YOU are here for him and that YOU WILL NEVER turn your back on him, despite your husbands actions otherwise!
You have a greater responsibility now more than ever to be an example of love and acceptance for your son right now.
YOU ACTUALLY have a chance right now to show your son what it means to actually BE CHRIST LIKE...show him what a true Christian would do...and LOVE HIM, not turn your back on him!
You aren't choosing between your son or husband. At this point, you're choosing between right and wrong. To not love someone and to turn our backs on someone, simply because their actions don't fit within the confounds of our personal beliefs which WE ALSO PERSONALLY CHOOSE, is wrong.