One of my most popular video blogs...it is apparently a lesson we are all learning in life! There is NO exception to this rule!
How to have better days....4 simple rules that I follow daily!
1. Wake up to something positive. Did you know that what you hear in the first 20 minutes of your day will set the tone for the entire day? The first 20 minutes of your day are th most important minutes of your day! Most people wake up and immediately start fighting with their kids or their spouses OR they turn on the news (which is full of negativity). Love yourself enough to give yourself 20 minutes of something positive, inspirational, and motivational and set your tone right!
2. Understand that you're going to have bad "moments" and that's okay. Get through them...and move on. Don't get stuck on the bad moments. Do not let a bad minute ruin your moment. Don't let a bad moment ruin your day. Most people get stuck on a single event in their life that they allow to ruin it for years to come. Don't get stuck in a moment.
3. Tell yourself that you're either IN your way or you're ON your way. There's no exception to this rule! Love yourself enough to forgive yourself and give yourself a new start each and every new day. Morning has broken...like the very first morning! That's why I listen to that song...it's a great reminder that each day is a new day!
4. Actively participate in your own life...actively participate in becoming the human being that you're supposed to become in this life. Take responsibility and BRING IT!
Removing the title of negative people in our lives…
One of the most dangerous things we can do in our lives is give people titles. All titles. Mom. Dad. Sister. Brother. Best Friend. Close Friend. Good Friend.
Titles define people’s roles in our lives that may or may not last throughout the seasons in our lives. In the event that the role they’re supposed to play no longer lasts, we get stuck, fixated on this idea of who they’re supposed to be in our lives SIMPLY and ONLY because of the title we’ve given them.
Let me give you an example…a woman wrote to me last week and said one of the most negative people in her life is her sister. She said her sister is always the person holding her back. She’s the least happy for her if there’s ever a moment to celebrate. She’s the most negative about anything happening in life and she’s always complaining and dragging her down in life. BUT she can’t do anything about it because they’re “sisters”.
I call BS. I say one of the best things for her to do is strip the title of “sister” away and THEN consider the relationship. Forget that she’s your sister momentarily and take away that “title” and then ask yourself “how healthy is this relationship for me”?
Family can be one of the most detrimental relationships we have with people. Just because someone is related to us doesn’t give them a all access pass to run us down in life and run over us, take advantage of us, or disregard our own personal needs, desires or feelings.
Just because someone’s “family” doesn’t mean they get to railroad you and use you for all you’re worth. Strip away the title FIRST and THEN stop and really evaluate the relationship….if it were anyone else off the street would you put up with that crap? No chance. And you shouldn’t now!
Just because you’ve always known someone doesn’t mean you always should. Just because they’re apart of your past shouldn’t give them instant access to your future.
Put your foot down, have some self worth and set the boundaries in your life. We just talked about this. We TEACH PEOPLE HOW TO TREAT US. There is no exception to this rule. Especially family!
Here's what I would say:
Being around you makes me feel bad. But also not being around you makes me feel sad. But I have to choose self preservation now. The price of this relationship costs me more than I’m willing to pay these days. My happiness, my wholeness, my joy, my excitement, my smiles and laughter…aren’t worth the drama of you in my life. It’s not easy letting you go but at this point, it’s you or me…
Perhaps the lesson learned my friend is simply your own self worth! Removing the negative only makes room for more positive. Trust and believe that there's a better plan than the one in your head!
Strip away the title and re-evaluate the relationship all together. Do they truly still belong in your life OR are you just stuck on the title! Something to consider...
HAPPY MONDAY MORNING! I think one of the most important things we can do in life is recognize that many people will attempt to steal away our joy and happiness throughout the day. If you can go into your day and understand this from the beginning, being able to recognize their insidious, manipulative, passive aggressive desires to take away your joy, then you can walk away!!
There is a price you pay for all things you give away. Is it worth your happiness? NEVER!